I have some good news and some bad news.
Sticking to tradition, I’ll start with the bad news. You have lost at everything. Whether it is working, negotiating or doing business with the Chinese, you have lost at everything, by definition.
The good news is, I will help you win this war.
Why me?
Because it was I who took the risk of leaving everything behind with a less then mediocre command of Chinese and going to China with a one-way ticket and $300 in my pocket. I had nothing there: no friends, no place to live and no job. Moreover, everything I knew about the Chinese was limited to my university lectures. I had no other choice but to make arrangements with the Chinese in their language. And I did a good job.
I acquired all my knowledge, skills and capabilities in the field, rather than inside a comfortable office. And, by the way, I was speaking fluent Chinese within a month.
Why not them?
People who major in Chinese usually become translators, guides, teachers or FEA managers. None of them learn how to survive among the Chinese in combat mode. I do, however, respect all of the above mentioned occupations.
Numerous articles have been written on how to negotiate with the Chinese, but, weirdly enough, they all repeat one another and speak from a Westerner’s point of view. The Chinese are different. Completely. But not a single article gives us the actual picture. They mostly use general words and formulas, which do not work in practice. I learned this from firsthand experience, and more than once. For instance, not a single article will tell you a thing about the psychological age of the Chinese, or why, from a historical standpoint, their behavior seems so strange, inconsistent and unusual to us. Not a word. Not even a hint.
Negotiating with and thinking like the Chinese, reading their minds, doing business with them, choosing the right approach to working with them and making them play by my rules are the skills I acquired not at a university desk, but in real life. True, we learned a lot from our university lectures, but they never taught us how to apply this information in real life. So, I learned on my own. After graduation, I, like most of my schoolmates, had two main options: either finding a job as a translator or guide or purchasing agent, or going to China to continue studying. But I chose a third option. I simply went to China with no particular plan, to learn about the Chinese in their natural habitat.
